Betrayal / Relational Trauma

Infidelity Recovery

86% of couples that talk openly, honestly and work together, stay together.

(research from Peggy Vaughan - founder of the Beyond Affair Network)

Whether you are individually having to move on after being betrayed in an affair, unsure of the direction you want to take, or you are motivated to heal your marriage... there is hope for your healing. Get the support you need and deserve!

Betrayal / Relational Trauma

Life After Divorce

There is Hope

Divorce can be a challenging and emotional experience, leaving individuals feeling lost and uncertain about their future. However, it's essential to understand that there is life after divorce and that individuals can move forward and create a fulfilling life with time and effort.

One of the main reasons there is life after divorce is that it provides an opportunity for growth and personal development. This time in your life can involve developing new interests, rediscovering passions, or pursuing new career opportunities. Divorce can be a transformative experience, allowing individuals to reflect on their past and make positive changes for their future.

Furthermore, divorce can allow individuals to build stronger and healthier relationships with family and friends. Often, divorce can strain relationships with loved ones. Still, it can also bring people closer together as they provide support and encouragement during this difficult time. With the help of family and friends, individuals can rebuild their social support network and find new sources of joy and fulfillment.

Additionally, divorce can also provide a sense of freedom and independence. After a divorce, individuals can rediscover themselves and pursue new hobbies or interests that they may have put aside during their marriage. This newfound sense of independence can lead to greater self-confidence and self-esteem, ultimately improving overall well-being.

Lastly, there is life after divorce because it's possible to find love and happiness again. Whether through dating, joining social groups, or pursuing new hobbies, there are many ways to meet new people and find love again. While it may take time and effort to heal from a divorce, many individuals go on to find new partners and build healthy, fulfilling relationships.

In conclusion, while divorce can be a challenging and painful experience, it's important to remember that there is life after divorce. With time, effort, and a positive attitude, individuals can find new opportunities for growth and happiness, ultimately creating a fulfilling life.

Betrayal / Relational Trauma

Why Fall In Love Again?

If pain will follow?

Divorce can be a devastating experience for anyone, and it's natural to feel hesitant about falling in love again after going through such a complicated process. However, there are many reasons why it's crucial to consider opening your heart to love again.

Firstly, falling in love can be a powerful source of healing and renewal after the trauma of divorce. It's an opportunity to connect with someone who appreciates you for who you are and who can help you to rediscover your sense of self-worth and purpose.

In addition, falling in love again can be a valuable learning experience. After a divorce, you may have gained a new understanding of what you want and need in a relationship and what warning signs to watch out for when starting to date. For example, this knowledge can help you to choose a partner who is a better fit for you and to avoid making the same mistakes that led to your previous divorce.

Falling in love again is a key factor in improving your overall well-being. Furthermore, being in a loving relationship can have numerous positive effects on your physical and mental health. Studies have shown that people in healthy relationships tend to have lower levels of stress and anxiety, better heart health, and a longer life expectancy.

Finally, falling in love again can be a beautiful and fulfilling experience. It's an opportunity to share your life with someone special, to create new memories and experiences together, and to build a lasting connection that can bring joy and happiness for years to come.

While the prospect of falling in love again after a divorce can be daunting, there are many compelling reasons to consider giving it another chance. By being open to the possibility of love, you may find a renewed sense of purpose, healing, and happiness in your life.

Betrayal / Relational Trauma

The Process

Step 1: 

Assess the individual needs and the needs of the couple

Affair recovery is like a three legged stool. There is the betrayed intimate partner's individual healing, the betrayer's individual recovery, and the marital recovery if, and when, appropriate. At Capstone, we address all three components to bring the total and complete healing needed. As a part of our intake process, both partners may take assessments that gather vital information to the therapeutic process. These assessments measure levels of trauma, commitment, the presence of addiction, depression, anxiety, etc.

Step 2: 

Meet with your therapist

At the intake session, we will develop more understanding which will facilitate the development of your personalized recovery plan. Your plan can include individual therapy, group therapy, EMDR therapy, brainspotting, couples therapy, mindfulness, and a variety of treatment options.

Step 3: 

Implementing your personalized plan: one day at at time

You and your therapist will continue to collaborate as you begin the process of healing. Generally, this includes a variety of important therapeutic elements such as understanding your trauma, grieving your losses, navigating questions like :“ How should an affair be ended?”, and “How many details are helpful/hurtful?”. Other important topics include setting boundaries and gathering information needed in order to make decisions about the relationship through obtaining a therapeutic disclosure (when possible). Our therapists provide direction, and implement interventions designed to move the individual or couple through the pain and toward healing. 



It is important to note that when in the crisis stage of betrayal and affair recovery, traditional marital therapy is not effective in healing the wounds or re-establishing trust. Going on more dates, learning one another’s love languages, simply working on communication or primarily focusing on other marital issues is reserved for later sessions once trust and safety have begun to be rebuilt. For this reason, individual sessions may be more frequent in the beginning until the appropriate time to meet as a couple (if applicable).