EMDR International Association, "Introduction to EMDR Therapy"  YouTube, 5 September 2019, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Pkfln-ZtWeY

What is EMDR?

Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) is an evidence-based therapy that helps your brain's natural healing process work more effectively. Unlike traditional talk therapy alone, EMDR directly addresses how traumatic memories are stored and processed in your brain, helping to reduce their emotional intensity and restore your sense of safety and well-being.

Developed by Dr. Francine Shapiro in the late 1980s, EMDR has been extensively researched and is recognized by the World Health Organization, American Psychiatric Association, and Department of Veterans Affairs as a highly effective treatment for trauma and PTSD.



How EMDR Works: Adaptive Information Processing

EMDR is based on the Adaptive Information Processing (AIP) model, which suggests that your brain has a natural ability to heal from psychological wounds, much like your body heals from physical injuries. When functioning optimally, your brain processes experiences and stores them in a way that promotes learning and healthy emotional responses.

However, when something overwhelming happens—like betrayal, abuse, or other trauma—this natural processing system can become disrupted. The traumatic experience gets "stuck" in your nervous system in its raw, unprocessed form, complete with the original emotions, physical sensations, and beliefs from that moment.

This is why trauma feels so "present" even when it's in the past.

The Eight Phases of EMDR

What EMDR Can Help With

EMDR is particularly effective for:

• Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD)
• Betrayal trauma from infidelity or emotional affairs
• Complex trauma and childhood experiences
• Anxiety disorders and panic attacks
• Depression related to traumatic experiences
• Grief and complicated loss
• Performance anxiety and phobias
• Disturbing life events that feel "stuck"
  

EMDR for Betrayal Trauma:

When Trust Is Shattered

Discovering a partner's affair creates a unique trauma that can shatter your entire reality. The hypervigilance, intrusive thoughts, and overwhelming emotions you're experiencing aren't signs of weakness—they're normal responses to relational trauma.

Betrayal trauma is particularly devastating because it involves someone you depended on for safety. This violation triggers your body's survival responses as if your very safety is threatened.

Common betrayal trauma symptoms EMDR can address:

• Intrusive images from discovery moments
• Hypervigilance and constant threat-scanning
• Overwhelming floods of rage, panic, or despair
• Sleep disturbances and concentration difficulties
• Self-blame and misplaced shame
• Fear of trusting again
• Physical symptoms like nausea or chest tightness

Click here to read more in our blog Your Brain Knows How to Heal: Why EMDR Might Be the Missing Piece in Your Betrayal Recovery

EMDR for Children

EMDR therapy has been successfully adapted for children as young as six, using playful, non-verbal techniques that feel like "playing games" to children. Unlike traditional talk therapy, there's no pressure to retell traumatic details.

What makes EMDR effective for children:

• Uses toys, art, and games to create safety
• Child-friendly bilateral stimulation (following lights, gentle tapping, alternating sounds)
• Helps rewire how the brain processes difficult memories

EMDR helps children heal from experiences like divorce, loss, medical procedures, bullying, and other overwhelming events. Parents often notice improvements in sleep, emotional regulation, and their child's overall confidence and joy.

If your child hasn't seemed quite the same since a difficult experience, EMDR may help restore their natural resilience.

Click here to read our blog 7 Childhood Experiences That Create Lasting Trauma (And How EMDR Therapy Helps Children Heal)

What to Expect in EMDR Therapy

Many clients are surprised by how different EMDR feels from traditional talk therapy. While we do talk about your experiences, much of the healing happens through the bilateral stimulation process itself. You might notice:

• Shifting emotions as your brain processes the material
• New insights or memories emerging spontaneously
• Physical sensations changing or releasing during sessions
• Calmer responses to triggers between sessions
• Clearer thinking about your situation and options

The memories don't disappear, but they lose their power to overwhelm you. Many clients describe feeling like a heavy weight has been lifted or like they can "breathe again."

Is EMDR Right for You?

EMDR can be particularly helpful if you:

• Feel emotionally "stuck" despite wanting to heal
• Experience intrusive thoughts or flashbacks
• Have strong physical reactions to trauma reminders
• Struggle with negative beliefs about yourself
• Find that talking about the trauma feels overwhelming or insufficient
• Want a therapy approach that works with your body's natural healing capacity
  

Getting Started

Healing from trauma—whether betrayal, loss, or other life experiences—doesn't have to be a decades-long process of just learning to cope. With EMDR, many clients experience significant relief in a relatively short time, often feeling substantial shifts within the first few processing sessions.

Ready to begin your healing journey? Contact Capstone Counseling and Coaching's certified EMDR therapist, Lauren Daul, an expert in guiding you through that process, helping your brain heal and move forward. Schedule a consultation and learn how EMDR can help you reclaim your emotional freedom and move forward with clarity and strength.

Call us:  (770) 744-5055
Schedule online:  CapstoneAtlanta.com/Contact
Email:  info@capstoneatlanta.com

Your brain already knows how to heal. Sometimes it just needs the right conditions to complete the process.