You and your therapist will continue to collaborate as you begin the process of healing. Generally, this includes a variety of important therapeutic elements such as understanding your trauma, grieving your losses, navigating questions like :“ How should an affair be ended?”, and “How many details are helpful/hurtful?”. Other important topics include setting boundaries and gathering information needed in order to make decisions about the relationship through obtaining a therapeutic disclosure (when possible). Our therapists provide direction, and implement interventions designed to move the individual or couple through the pain and toward healing.
It is important to note that when in the crisis stage of betrayal and affair recovery, traditional marital therapy is not effective in healing the wounds or re-establishing trust. Going on more dates, learning one another’s love languages, simply working on communication or primarily focusing on other marital issues is reserved for later sessions once trust and safety have begun to be rebuilt. For this reason, individual sessions may be more frequent in the beginning until the appropriate time to meet as a couple (if applicable).